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in this.
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Dementia vs. Alzheimer's: Understanding the Differences and Learning How to Care
A gentle guide for families navigating the world of dementia — what separates dementia from Alzheimer's, the different types, and simple, compassionate ways to care.
Read From AmberA Refresh on Refusal of Care: When Someone With Dementia Refuses Care — Understanding the Why Behind the Resistance
Refusing a shower, medication, or getting dressed is rarely defiance — it is usually communication. Amber walks through the reasons behind resistance, how to watch your words, and ten gentle ways to respond.
Read From AmberWhen Dementia Turns a Loving Moment Into an Angry One
Agitation and anger are often a message, not a rejection. Amber shares what may be behind the behavior, how to respond in the moment, and Marilyn's story.
ReadTake a breath.
However you got here, whatever kind of day you're having — I'm glad you stopped by. Read gently. Take what helps. Leave the rest.
— Amber